I've been wanting to write this blog for some time now, but I just never sat down and wrote it. So, here it goes...
As most people know, this time last year my sister and I didn't speak to each other. Not only did we not get along, we absolutely hated each other to the core. It's strange looking back on that now, but I'm still reminded of it by my friends. James was surprised by it when he came back over winter break. It's just strange to some people how close we are now, compared to where we were last year.
It all started when James and I sat down and had a conversation about it. We talked about how she was, and started to look at things through her eyes. That's sort of when everything clicked. I realized why she acted the way she did, and that she really wasn't all that bad of a person, just a little lost. It didn't help that no one in the family wanted anything to do with her.
So, James and I devised a plan. I had been planning on making brownies that week, and my sister is allergic to peanuts. So, I made a big batch of brownies with peanut butter, and a small batch on the side for her with out any peanut butter added. She walked out as I pulled them out of the oven and asked what they were. I said “they're Nutella brownies with peanut butter.” She looked down and said “oh,” and I pulled out the smaller batch and said “these don't have peanut butter though. They're for you.”
It's amazing how such a small moment can be the turning point in a relationship. She looked up with a sort of “really?” look on her face and just said thank you.
It wasn't until recently that I learned how much she appreciates when people go out of their way to get around her peanut allergy. It made me feel really good.
After that whole ordeal, we just started talking and hanging out. It was nice to not only gain a new friend out of the ordeal, but help improve her life in a way. I know she'd never admit it, but our new friendship definitely made her a happier person. She had someone at home who was nice to her; someone she could talk to. No one in their right mind would have guessed that would be me.
I like it too. I rarely talk to anyone else back home. I only talk with her really. She and I have grown very close in this past year, and it's nice. I love the girl once again, something I haven't been able to say since we were kids. It's just amazing how a little effort on my part went a long way.
Last time I was home, she and I hung out with our friends for a little. I asked her if she wanted to go see Harry Potter with me over the summer. I know she doesn't realize it, but this is a big deal to me. I want to see this with her because not only will it be a great memory for us to look back on, but we're both huge Harry Potter fans and haven't seen a single movie together. It'll be another step forward in our relationship made my a little effort on my part.
